Okay, time to get real. No one likes to talk about online dating. Especially not their own experiences, because let’s face it, most of them suck.
But today I will. By showing you how to fix Tinder. Because contrary to common belief, good things can come from online dating, if you use it right that is. That’s why today I’ll show you how to increase the quality of your Tinder matches tremendously – and thus increase your odds at finding love.
Note: If you’re really lazy, I’ll show you how to do this in a video tutorial, and also give you the exact words to say at the end of this post. It takes less than 7 minutes.
This is for all the 23 year olds, who have gotten their shit together. If you’ve realized how tough it is to find somebody to spend your life with, and that you should start looking no later than today, then this is for you.
Hint: This is not for young horny idiots and “pick up artists”, looking for quick hookups. If that’s what you’re looking for, go look elsewhere. The strategy I’m suggesting will actually work against you 🙂
Whether you want it to be true or not, online dating is happening. It is a $1.2 billion industry by now, and according to this scientific research, 17% of all marriages in 2013 were a result of online dating.
1 in 5 relationships these days has begun online. Online dating has come a long way from being “the weirdo way of meeting people”.
Yet, finding someone to spend the rest of your life with is tough. It is most likely the biggest challenge we face in our lives.
It was tough a 100 years ago, and it’s still tough today.
If anything, today it’s even harder. Why? Because 100 years ago you maybe had access to 100,000 people in total to choose from. Nowadays, with the internet, you have access to billions of people.
How the hell are you supposed to pick just one? The paradox of choice is real, folks.
The drawback of online dating is it makes us focus on the wrong things.
Here’s what’s wrong with Tinder specifically: With so many profiles and pictures to look at, we like all the pretty peoples’ pictures and extend into a long back and forth questioning with each match, only to find out they were not what we were looking for 1 month later and 3 dates in.
That’s what you get, if looks is your primary way of sorting out.
And while there’s tons of guides out there that help you “fix Tinder”, none of them address the real problem, because they all just help you to put better pictures up.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
As always, less is more.
The trick is to limit your choices by putting a quality filter on online dating.
Put another way: Would you rather go on a 100 normal dates, out of which 20 might lead to a follow-up date, or on 10 great dates, 2 of which leave you completely amazed?
I can’t guarantee you the exact numbers, but I can promise you something magic will happen.
Today I’ll show you how to tweak your Tinder profile, so you get less crappy matches, and more high quality ones. In short: A way to fix Tinder.
Before using this trick, I was tindering every now and then, but without much success.
Until one day in August, when I saw a video by Tai Lopez.
It was one of the steps in his program, but the gist of it was this:
Make yourself interesting. Stand out from the crowd.
You have to be special, if you want to attract someone special.
It really clicked in my brain when I heard that.
What most people do on Tinder is show off their photoshopped facebook profile pics.
So I thought I’d run a little experiment.
Until then, I had only gotten a few matches over the course of a few weeks, but I also “tindered” only a couple minutes every other day.
I then came up with these:
I was sick of all the meaningless back and forth texting, I really wanted to meet someone. Use the app to find someone and do the rest the old-fashioned way (that’s in person by the way).
The result? Way more matches. Still not dozens, but 1-2 every day I would say.
I guess if you don’t look like Ryan Gosling in your pictures, it might be actually be better for guys (and girls!) not to show off their pics instantly. Creates a mystery. It’s intriguing.
Warning: If you had lots of matches before, you might get less with this, but that’s not a bad thing.
Because of the second thing that will happen as it happened to me:
The quality of my matches went up by a billion.
Not all of them ended up actually talking to me, especially when I mentioned coffee so soon, but the ones that did were all smart and worthwhile people.
They always had stories to tell or were doing something interesting.
A few weeks after having it set up this way I got a fateful match one afternoon.
We matched, SHE asked to get coffee instantly, we set up a date the next day, I drove for 30 minutes to meet her, and we hit it off.
To be more accurate, we not only hit it off, we completely hit it out of the park.
As of about 1 month after our first date, we’re in a relationship. We have been together for 4 months now.
And I have never been happier in my entire life.
I know how lucky I am, since not everyone can expect to find the perfect woman. Talk about a perfect match, haha.
But if you’re serious about finding someone great on Tinder, and if you’re ready to step out of your comfort zone a little, here’s how you can do your best to make that happen.
Step by step guide to fix Tinder
Step 1: Pick your message
Take some time to do this. The more time you invest here, the higher the quality of people you will attract.
Think about what you’re really looking for in a person. Tell them what you want to do for your first date. Pick an activity you really like. Invite them to laser tag.
Ask them what their favorite book is. Mention yours.
Also: make them work for it!
Make a multiple choice and tell them to only swipe to the next pic, if they pick certain answers.
Give them a challenge.
They have to earn the right to see your pic. Make it tough! Don’t be afraid of cutting out potential matches.
Have your message? Good.
Hint: If you can’t figure this out, cheat a little! Download my 5 ideas for intriguing and exciting message ideas at the end of this post.
Step 2: Create your design
Enter your message and pic a cool design, such as this:
Hit create, then download image.
Hint: If you’re on an iPhone, just hold down your finger on the pic and then “Save Image”.
Step 3: Upload to facebook
This is a little tricky, since you’re not using your actual profile pics, but I’ll show you how to get the photos into Tinder and then hide them on facebook.
Go to your profile, photos and then create an album.
Upload the quote photo. In my case I’ll also add a photo of a fortune I once got out of a fortune cookie. Plus, of course, a pic of me.
Hint: You should always include one pic of yourself, in order to not look like a creep. Make it a good shot of your face, and wear a big smile!
In order to first get the pics into Tinder, you also have to make sure the publicity settings are set to public.
We’ll change this later, so no one can see the pics on facebook, in case you don’t want them to show up there.
Give your album a neutral name, like “Quotes”, and hit publish.
Step 4: Update Tinder
Now you need to set up your pics in Tinder, and in the right order.
Open the app, go to your profile, and hit edit.
Then, add the photos from your new album and place them accordingly. The first one goes into the big space on the left, the second one in the top right box, the third into the box beneath it.
Hit done, and you’re all set! There you have it. A simple way to fix Tinder.
Boom, enjoy watching the quality of your Tinder matches soar to new heights.
Good luck out there
I sincerely hope this works for you as well as it did for me.
I know it gets tough out there in the jungle of dating life.
But if you’re honest and persistent, you will attract the right people by asking for the right things.
Remember: Every step outside of your comfort zone is a step towards happiness.
Click below to access the how-to video and download 5 awesome quote picture ideas for your new Tinder message and start your quest for true love today.