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How To Reach Your Goals With 27 Self Awareness Activities

I’m doing it again. I can feel it. Like a toothpick, my thumbnail rests in the gap between two teeth. It’s the position it takes right before I bite it. When I catch myself, like right now, I can prevent it. But it’s always a battle.

Often, I’m okay with losing it, as long as it means I’m winning the war with the article I’m writing. After all, what ends up on your screen isn’t a picture of my fingernails, but a (hopefully) helpful blog post.

It wasn’t always a conscious decision though. For over ten years, I bit my fingernails, unaware of the habit. When I started learning about self-improvement in 2012, it was the first habit I made a conscious effort to break. This both required and helped me with one of the most important human capacities: self-awareness.

Today, I’d like to help you cultivate yours, with 27 self-awareness activities, which you can practice on three distinct levels to improve your thinking, mental health and decisions – and thus, your results in the game of life.

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Do You For Love: The Best Way To Meet Women (Or Men) You’ll Like

I like to do the opposite of what everyone else is doing. It started in 2014. When everyone else was finishing their theses, I “procrastinated” with an internship. While all my friends optimized their resumé, I started a blog. Whereas most people would long have published a book, here I am, patiently writing for free.

So back in 2014, when Tinder was just two years old and few people in Germany were using it, I thought it was a good idea to jump on. And then I used it in a different way than everyone else. I met an awesome girl and we were together for almost two years. The reason it ended has nothing to do with the way we met. We just reached a gap we couldn’t cross. That’s okay.

In 2017, Tinder feels like the new norm. I now know more couples whose relationships began on Tinder than elsewhere.

I think it’s time to do the opposite. Again.

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On Being Vulnerable: What If You Didn’t Numb It?

Stories from the metaphorical operating table…

The other day I summarized a book called Daring Greatly by Brené Brown, which is about vulnerability. It’s been stuck in my head for days, so today, I want to share this idea with you.

Here’s what Google tells you when you ask it to “define vulnerable”:

exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.

Therefore, by definition, being vulnerable is dangerous. It’s unsafe, uncertain and uncomfortable. So naturally, we don’t like it and we try to escape this state as soon as possible.

When we feel exposed, endangered or on the spot, our usual reaction is to numb that feeling.

Today I want to ask you: what if you didn’t?

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How to fix Tinder and find love – a step by step guide

Okay, time to get real. No one likes to talk about online dating. Especially not their own experiences, because let’s face it, most of them suck.

But today I will. By showing you how to fix Tinder. Because contrary to common belief, good things can come from online dating, if you use it right that is. That’s why today I’ll show you how to increase the quality of your Tinder matches tremendously – and thus increase your odds at finding love.

Note: If you’re really lazy, I’ll show you how to do this in a video tutorial, and also give you the exact words to say at the end of this post. It takes less than 7 minutes.

This is for all the 23 year olds, who have gotten their shit together. If you’ve realized how tough it is to find somebody to spend your life with, and that you should start looking no later than today, then this is for you.

Hint: This is not for young horny idiots and “pick up artists”, looking for quick hookups. If that’s what you’re looking for, go look elsewhere. The strategy I’m suggesting will actually work against you 🙂

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